Problem relationship pain is not all bad.

GOING INTO A RELATIONSHIP

The purpose of a relationship is to co-operate in the game of life.

Rather that "I can't live without you," it should be "I don't need you but it sure is fun to have you share in the game of life."

Love is not a basis for involvement with someone, irrespective of what the story books tell us. If you really know how to love, there are 4 billion people in the world to love. If love is the basis of your involvement, then you are sick, as most of us are who are starved for love, that we grab the one and only thing God has sent us, we think. Romantic love is the root of total failure of a relationship.

Choose someone who likes to play the same games as you do, keep it all as a preference and not an addictive demand. Take whatever you get, you can't win them all. Only addictions cause suffering, you can't hurt each other.

Honour the relationship and use it for growth. If you addictively demand or need the relationship, you are in trouble and carry the seeds of its termination, If you are leaning on someone and they move away, you will fall down. If you get into a relationship to prove yourself, you are sick and so is your partner. It is only when you don't need, but want a relationship, that it will be successful. Don't have rigid models for your partner that they must meet, have lots of friends, lots of activities - really LIVE.

Use the relationship for your consciousness growth, but work on your head, don't addictively demand that your partner change to fit your models. Don't take on inner work on the other person's stuff unless asked. Don't get hung up on the results don't set models, everything is perfect!

If we enter a relationship expecting that it will make us happy forever, it is wrong and an illusion - it will only give you a chance to get in touch with your addictions. Only freedom from your addictions will make you happy.

To understand in a more scientific way the meaning of love and "I love you," it means that when I am with you, I get in touch with the part of me that is beautiful, capable and loving - it all lies within me. It will enable you to get in touch with the real you. You can't do this with words, it must be experienced. Get free of the illusions of romantic love.

A person can help you do two things - either to help you to resonate and/or to mirror you, and you have been crediting the mirror and not you. Take full responsibility for your selection, there are no mistakes. A relationship is either perfect for your enjoyment or for your growth. The idea that romantic love is a gift from God is only evading the responsibilities. Don't hunt for love or for relationships, work on yourself until you get to a level of skill where you can select properly on a higher level of consciousness.

The universe will provide you with a partner when you are ready - NOT ADDICTIVELY.

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